How to Speak to Ourselves With Kindness

It’s not just what you do but the way in which you do it. 

There’s a silent river that flows behind all action. It’s this river that reveals to us one another’s inner world. It is the how of each action. The way in which one conducts tasks hints at unspoken emotions that one may be experiencing. 

Now, I’m going to ask you to do some visualizing. First, picture someone washing dishes joyfully. Singing aloud. Perhaps a little dancing. 

Next, imagine the same person washing dishes right after an argument with their mom. Things weren’t settled. Emotions are heightened. 

Lastly, once again visualize the same person washing dishes. This time they have just received tragic news. 
Although all three scenarios had the same setting, it’s likely you saw your character acting quite differently. 

It’s the same for the main character of your life. That’s you!  How do you apply lotion? How do you get from A to B? 

Easy Steps to Speaking Kindly:

1. Notice where you are at now. 
   Today, in this very moment. Not yesterday. Not on your best day. Just right now. How’s your inner dialogue? What tone am I taking with myself? Encouraging? Nagging? Just notice. 
2.  Accept where you are. 
3. Take a deep breath 
   Easeful. Welcoming a pause. Offer a gentle word, a kind thought. 
4. This is a simple switch in mindset. 

When Can I Do This?

The answer is simple: ANYTIME! 

You can practice self-kindness during tangible moments like while washing dishes, showering, or driving your car. Positive self-talk can be an intention first thing in the morning when you wake up. It can be remembered in those moments that we’re running late or juggling children. There is simply no wrong time to be kind to yourself. 

How we speak to ourselves matters. We all have days with to-do lists that are longer than humanly possible. Now imagine adding a nagging voice in your head through out accomplishing all tasks. Not so helpful. But kindness and support—those are useful!